How Dare You Move On

I have been seeing someone, a very good someone. For awhile. It came to a point in which it was time for him to meet the kids. And then eventually, he stayed overnight. And this is how it went down:

A told K about J and the fact that J spent the night. K had a fit. Screamed that I broke the agreement. Told A that he could take custody of all the kids because I broke the agreement. Even told C I broke the law.

Amazing how someone moves on and it somehow becomes a legal issue? For the record, I broke no agreement. There was nothing in the agreement and thus I did not break any laws. Ironically the ex tried to say that I had to MARRY someone in order to have overnights or wait until A was 18. That got shot down very quickly!

Regardless if I had broke the law or not, you don't say SHIT to your kids. You go straight to your damned lawyer IDIOT!

The Push and Pull

Don't you love it when the agreement isn't working out for one parent so they go to the kids about it?

A begins telling me that K has been telling him that I get the kids way more often than he does and how unfair it is. I have routinely told A to tell his father to stop discussing this matter and tell him to talk to me instead. I have heard nothing from K about if he is unhappy with how custody is going or not.

 

Why? Why Would Anyone Leave You?

This one is a particular favorite moment of mine. It really makes you wonder about his logic:


C asked him, “Why are you so mean to mommy?” his response is “If I was nice her to she would be scared.”

And does he ever wonder WHY I left???

Straight Up Lying!!!

Our first submission comes from N.O. and here is what the children are experiencing:

My soon to be ex told our daughter that I was responsible for her being bullied at school because I yelled at the kids at the bus stop for throwing bricks at the house and passing cars. This was just for beginners before he had me served with an order of protection with deliberately taken out of context statements and actions. He then stole the kids told the eldest I was going to hurt them and told the youngest I had abandoned him, The mess continues.


Just makes me shake my head in horror at how any parent thinks that this is acceptable way to handle the end of a marriage.

The Day After Fallout

This particular situation took place the day after I left the hubs with the kids. He had time to see them that day, something I have been feeling I should have never allowed.

First:

I go to pick up the kids and A says “Momma, you are a liar. Daddy says….” And I stop him right there. 

Doesn't matter what happens between the parents, YOU NEVER TELL YOUR CHILDREN THAT THE OTHER PARENT IS A LIAR!!!

Then a little while later:

I learn from A that K told the kids they would see “Momma’s true self” and that he was afraid to sign the separation agreement because it could be bad for the kids in the long run.

Again, it serves no benefit to a parent to bash another this way. And the agreement isn't for the kids to worry about, that's between the parents, lawyers, and judge.