Screw You!!!!

So let me set the stage.......we are having a family discussion with the eldest who will be embarking on a new adventure next year when she attends high school. In the course of discussion we turn to the important factor of moving forward in an opportunistic matter despite what friends may want. Here is what happens:

K looks at M and says "sometimes you have to look at your friends and say 'screw you, this is the best opportunity for me'" and I am nodding in absolute agreement. Until he says the rest, "that also includes your parents."

Excuse me? WTF did you just tell our teenage daughter???? We aren't living in a teen movie where we are dictating to her that she must take a career path that matches our own (my ex and I work in the same field), we are simply encouraging her to embrace all the opportunities she can because of her talents and intelligence. Telling your parents to "screw off" is a shot in the fucking foot!

It's Just Not Smart!

Another amazing situation on the 'how dare you move on' scenario:

A tells me that K told him that it was really nice I met someone but not smart to bring a stranger around the children.

What's not smart is to assume that I don't know that person or to try and portray their mother as an imbecile. At some point I was going to meet someone that was worthy of time with my kids. I would know that person well in advance. Yea, they would be a stranger to the kids at first, but not to me. It's impossible to get to know someone without them being a stranger that first time.

How Dare You Move On

I have been seeing someone, a very good someone. For awhile. It came to a point in which it was time for him to meet the kids. And then eventually, he stayed overnight. And this is how it went down:

A told K about J and the fact that J spent the night. K had a fit. Screamed that I broke the agreement. Told A that he could take custody of all the kids because I broke the agreement. Even told C I broke the law.

Amazing how someone moves on and it somehow becomes a legal issue? For the record, I broke no agreement. There was nothing in the agreement and thus I did not break any laws. Ironically the ex tried to say that I had to MARRY someone in order to have overnights or wait until A was 18. That got shot down very quickly!

Regardless if I had broke the law or not, you don't say SHIT to your kids. You go straight to your damned lawyer IDIOT!

The Push and Pull

Don't you love it when the agreement isn't working out for one parent so they go to the kids about it?

A begins telling me that K has been telling him that I get the kids way more often than he does and how unfair it is. I have routinely told A to tell his father to stop discussing this matter and tell him to talk to me instead. I have heard nothing from K about if he is unhappy with how custody is going or not.